Relationship & Couples Counselling
Move past frustration and resentment towards understanding and connection
Relationship counselling in Geelong
Relationships take work. For some people, this can be achieved at home. For others, an objective third party is highly beneficial.
Relationship and marriage counselling provides a positive course of action toward a healthy and harmonious relationship, whether a single specific event is addressed or persistent, ongoing issues are unpacked.
Marriage counselling – why wait?
Many couples wait an average of six years before seeking help for their unhappy relationship. Ideally, couples will engage in counselling as soon as problems are identified. However couples counselling can still be really beneficial for a relationship in crisis.
At Create Balance Psychotherapy and Counselling, we give you a good place to express your feelings. It is non-judgmental, supportive, and safe. You might want to come because you’re feeling sad or angry. Or maybe there’s a part or parts of your relationship that concern you.
Whatever the circumstances of your relationship, we will work with you and your partner to determine the best path forward. Even if your spouse is unwilling to go into therapy, we can still assist you to take the initial steps toward change.
When couples therapy is initiated, it can help you and your partner become stronger. It makes you feel better and more open. It makes your relationship more fulfilling.
Family Relationships
Couples therapy can have a positive impact on the family relationships as well. When you and your spouse communicate more effectively the whole family does better. The children sense the stress and anxiety you are under, and they feel it too.
When everyone in your family is working together, you create something that is stronger than anyone could do alone. When all of you communicate well with each other, you can accomplish anything. Children learn how to be adults by watching their parents, so making sense of your communication style and improving it is a benefit you will all share.
A Healthy Marriage Improves Your Life
Couples therapy can have a positive impact on the family relationships as well. When you and your spouse communicate more effectively the whole family does better. The children sense the stress and anxiety you are under, and they feel it too.
When everyone in your family is working together, you create something that is stronger than anyone could do alone. When all of you communicate well with each other, you can accomplish anything. Children learn how to be adults by watching their parents, so making sense of your communication style and improving it is a benefit you will all share.
Create Balance Therapists Are There To Help You
If you and your partner decide that couples therapy is the best way to handle your issues, we will work hard to support you.
We’ll work together with you and your partner in order for us to get the most out of each session. If there are things you’d like us to cover or if there is a certain thing you want from your appointment, please let us know.
Also, if you have a question or need clarification on anything due to language barriers, please let us know.
Divorce or Separation Counselling
Counselling is also recommended for when a couple has made the decision to end their relationship through separation or divorce. This can ensure that further hurt is avoided and it gives the couple an opportunity for closure.
They also have the time and space to make assessments about the impact on others, such as children.
Choose The Right Psychologist or Couples Counsellor For You
It’s a good idea to have a look at a few websites to identify which services feel right for you.
Counselling is different to mediation. Mediation usually takes place with the assistance of a mediator (the mediator can be either a professional or an impartial third party who assists parties in negotiation) and includes the assistance of lawyers where appropriate, though not always necessary. A mediated agreement contains terms which are mutually agreed upon by all parties involved.
By making a commitment to work on your relationship or your marriage, at any point in the struggle, you give yourself the best chance to nurture your partnership, as well as your own mental health. You have the opportunity to be supported by a professional who can see things with a different perspective and offer evidence based suggestions.
Learn to Really Hear Your Partner
Inclusive relationship counselling in Geelong
Our Create Balance therapists are highly motivated to provide a safe and supportive environment for all clients, including those from culturally diverse backgrounds and the LGBTQI+ community.
Attachment Based Relationship Counselling
Attachment theory looks at the relationships and care you received as a child .
It is not just about being loved, it is also about how you are cared for when you are in danger. Attachment is about staying close when things go wrong or scary or challenging.
Attachment styles
If you had a secure attachment with your parents and others in childhood this will have helped to protect you from the effects of stress and would likely make expressing your needs easier than someone who has a less secure attachment history.
Secure adults tend to have healthier relationships and are the most likely to form lasting attachments.
Avoidant Attachment Style
People with a dismissive or avoidant style find it easier to think about things in terms of practical needs. They are less likely to get emotional when thinking about difficult subjects such as feelings of loss because they have trouble understanding these emotions.
Insecure Attachment Styles
A person with an insistent/preoccupied style will be more likely to have issues with being demanding in relationships and having unrealistic expectations about their partner’s responsiveness.
They may find it harder to maintain a sense of self in the relationship when they are overwhelmed by their emotions in response to conflict.
It’s widely accepted now that insecurely attached people are more likely have relationship challenges through out life, which can impact their mental heath.
The good news is you can l earn to understand yourself better and make changes for the better.
Find out more about Attachment Styles.