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Attachment Theory

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Attachment Theory

The therapists at Create Balance Psychotherapy and Counselling utilise attachment based therapies to support a range of mental health issues, such as relationship concerns, anxiety, depression, addiction, confidence concerns, trauma, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and complex PTSD.

Attachment theory is based on the work of John Bowlby who theorised that the relationship formed between a child and their primary caregiver is responsible for the social, emotional and cognitive blueprint for the way they form and maintain relationships in adulthood. It is believed that the responsiveness of a child’s caregiver will influence the degree of anxiety and the degree of emotional avoidance they experience in adult relationships. There are four different types of attachments. Although you may demonstrate characteristics from each attachment type, being able to recognise your primary attachment style can be hugely beneficial in understanding yourself and your relationships with others. It is also important to note that a secure attachment style can be learned in the right environments, even if an individual has experienced avoidant, ambivalent or disorganised responses from their caregivers.

Secure Attachment

Caregiver Responsiveness

  • Responds consistently, quickly and positively to the child’s needs

Childhood Attachments

  • Happy and trusting
  • Explorative and curious
  • Distressed upon separation from caregiver
  • Seeks comfort upon caregiver’s return and is easily comforted

Adult Attachments

  • Comfortable with intimacy and autonomy in close relationships
  • Confident, content and resilient
  • Able to resolve conflict constructively

Avoidant Attachment

Caregiver Responsiveness

  • Does not respond to the needs of the child
  • Demonstrates an uncaring and dismissive attitude

Childhood Attachments

  • Not explorative
  • Emotionally distant
  • Does not show distress upon separation from caregiver
  • Does not acknowledge or seek comfort from caregiver upon their return

Adult Attachments

  • Compulsively self reliant
  • Distrusts partner’s availability and commitment
  • Distant in relationships and downplays importance

Ambivalent Attachment

Caregiver Responsiveness

  • Provides inconsistent care – both responsive and dismissive

Childhood Attachments

  • Anxious and insecure
  • Angry and distressed upon separation from caregiver
  • Is not able to be comforted by the caregiver upon their return

Adult Attachments

  • Overly invested and involved in close relationships
  • Dependent on others for self worth
  • Demanding and high needs

Disorganised Attachment

Caregiver Responsiveness

  • Abusive or neglectful responses
  • Demonstrates frightening or frightened responses

Childhood Attachments

  • Depressed and angry
  • Passive and non-responsive
  • Appears dazed, confused and apprehensive in the company of caregiver

Adult Attachments

  • Dependent on others but avoids intimacy
  • Fearful of rejection
  • Low self esteem and high anxiety